Do You Truly Desire Freedom?

Do You Truly Desirer Freedom?

I have been pondering the word “freedom” , and the wide range of images it conjures. Most of us at least believe that we would like to be free. However, the existential philosopher Jean Paul Sartre claimed we are all terrified of our freedom, for if we recognize our freedom we must then recognize the responsibility we garner for our lives. I was born and raised in a country that nearly deifies freedom, at least in thought, yet, was built on the backs of slaves. This country also  rounded up the indigenous peoples that occupied the land and forced them into small patches of land called reservations; that is, the few that were left alive. Does freedom mean to be able to do whatever we want? We are free in sense that we choose our responses to what life brings us.  Freedom only exists in context.  We make our choices in the situation in which we are thrown into in life.  We are then fully responsible for every choice we make.

Freedom exists only in context, and within that context, we are totally free. As Camus suggests in “The Myth Of Sisyphus”, we are all faced with Hamlet’s dilemma, Once we realize this, then we must recognize that we are choosing to be in the situation we are in. For example, I may want to be totally free and fly like a bird, and I am faced with the facticity of a body existing in gravity. I can claim that I am being “oppressed” by gravity and prevented from the freedom to soar through the air. This would be a false claim. I can jump off a high cliff and soar through the air for the time it takes me to reach the ground. Then I am faced with the combined phenomena of physics and biology. This may seem like a ridiculous example, but it makes an important point; that we are always totally free and always totally responsible. Every choice I make, I make freely. however, every free choice is made within the context I find myself at any given moment. I am choosing to not fly because of the consequences of flying. I can live with that choice.

This suggest that if one does not feel free it is because we are choosing to not be free in order to avoid the responsibility of our choices. Of course, this is a bad faith dilema because as Sartre put it, the only way in which we are not free is that we must choose. One can surmise how one’s relationship to, or understanding of freedom influences psychological well being. To be stuck is to deny that I am free. I constrain myself in light of the perceived consequences of my actions.

Thus the statement in Sartre’s play  “No Exit, “Hell is other people.” In the presence of the other we feel their objectification of us. We then attempt to manipulate that objectification by giving up the freedom of self in order to become what we believe is a more favorable object in the eyes of the other. This is what the founder of Gestalt Therapy, Fritz Pearls, calls “Giving our eyes away.” We, in essence, become our own disciple Peter and deny ourselves before the world at the moment of truth, which is each moment our consciousness faces the other. We are always free to choose. We can give up ourself to the eyes of the other, or not. If we give up ourselves in order to manipulate their objectification of us, we feel, what we believe to be, their oppression of us. In truth, what we are experiencing, is our own self-denial. In any given moment we are faced with Peter’s decision, which is psychically related to Hamlet’s decision. We can choose to deny the truth of who we are, or enter naked into the world. Remember what Peter had just witnessed. By entering naked into the world we all face the possibility of some form of annihilation. We could be rejected, humiliated, exiled or even killed for the very act of choosing to be.

Anxiety In TheThe Gap

Most of what brings people into psychotherapy is the discomfort one experiences in the gap between who we are and who we would like to be, or who we imagine we should be. When we imagine that we should be someone, or some-thing that we are not, it usually is experienced with great urgency

It would then follow that what leads most people to seeking psychotherapy is a crisis of identity. It does not matter if the identity crisis is related to profession, career, gender, sexual orientation, relational issues, or spiritual. What matters is the discomfort experienced in the gap.

One way to view differences between approaches to psychotherapy is in the way each approach understands the “gap”. This gap, or space between identities can be viewed as a disturbance leading to discomfort, decreased functioning, and decreased productivity. In contrast it can also be viewed as the beginning of the process of relinquishing constricting identities. The discomfort is the discomfort of moving into the unknown. This is the discomfort of freedom, otherwise known as existential anxiety.

An existential therapist will usually view anxiety as something other than pathological. While anxiety is always uncomfortable, it is not necessarily a symptom of illness. Anxiety can be experienced when moving into the unknown, (existential anxiety), or when we begin the process recognizing the gap between who we are and who we imagine ourselves to be, (neurotic anxiety). Either way, therapy can be about moving into a deeper understanding of the process as opposed to simply eliminating anxiety. This understanding leads to a richer, fuller experience of life.